Christians, It's Okay to Grieve
faith,  Grief

Christians, It’s Okay to Grieve

Christians can be some of the most encouraging, helpful people on earth. But when it comes to grief, we have a lot of work to do. Since my grandma died last summer, I find myself stumbling across Christian blog posts and advice about “overcoming grief” or “finding joy” instead of pain.

It can be very tempting to encourage others to fly past their grief. Believe me, I know. But it does more harm than good. I don’t want to blame my fellow Christians here though. I think American culture has ingrained a tough, busy exterior in us that doesn’t really allow the process of grief.

But did you know that it’s okay to grieve? In fact, it’s even Biblical!

Jesus Knows Grief

He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him. (Isaiah 53:3 NKJV)

Jesus is described as one acquainted with grief–a Man of sorrows. Our God knows what it means to bear grief and sadness. When Jesus came down to earth, He was met with a mess of pain and suffering. Our grief.

Our greatest comfort should be in knowing that God understands our mourning. To grieve the loss of someone is to express your love for them. And since Jesus is love, He wants that affection to pour out of us through our loss.

There’s a Time to Grieve

To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven…A time to weep, And a time to laugh; A time to mourn, And a time to dance; (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4 NKJV)

The Bible tells us there is a time for everything. Life isn’t just one big party (I know, surprise), and there are times when it is appropriate to feel sad. The wonderful news is that grief doesn’t last forever. Though we may always miss our loved ones, God does give us joy and laughter in time.

Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted. (Matthew 5:4 NKJV)

Not only is it okay for us to grieve, but Jesus actually gives those in mourning a blessing. God sees our troubles and sorrows here on earth. His heart breaks for us, and as long as we stay faithful, we will be rewarded for our season of grief.

There’s Hope in Grief

Jesus wept (John 11:35). This is a famous Bible verse because it is so short, yet so moving. Jesus was heartbroken when his good friend Lazarus died. He knew He would raise him from the dead, but His overwhelming love for Lazarus and his family broke through in tears. Yet there is hope in the final victory of Lazarus’ resurrection.

Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. (1 Thessalonians 4:13-14 NIV)

There’s hope for you too, lovely one. If you’re grieving a loved one right now, please know that you have hope in Jesus. He is our greatest comfort, and our only hope for eternity with those we’ve lost.

Grieving Victoriously

When I lost my grandma, it hit me in a way I never expected. I was in shock and tried to bury the pain for months. I ended up having panic attacks from the trauma of watching her pass over, which made me feel even worse.

The same questions kept playing like a broken record inside my head. Why was my grief so different? Why couldn’t I just cry for a month and get better like other people?

I truly believe that God was trying to teach me a lesson about grief and how it can draw us closer to Him. Sometimes things happen in life that bring us to a place where all we have left is our faith. These are the moments God wants to use to invade our lives. 

It’s okay to grieve. You have permission to cry, panic, or be numb. It’s okay to not be okay, to miss someone.

The important thing is that you don’t lose sight of Jesus. He’s there to hold you and walk you through this season of pain. With God, we have all we need to mourn victoriously.

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  • Courtney

    This is an excellent post Emily! The world often makes it seems like we need to keep it together all of the time, but the Bible actually says its OK to grieve. Jesus even grieved after Lazarus died, knowing He would bring him back! Loved this post!


    “It’s okay to grieve. You have permission to cry, panic, or be numb. It’s okay to not be okay, to miss someone.
    The important thing is that you don’t lose sight of Jesus. He’s there to hold you and walk you through this season of pain. With God, we have all we need to mourn victoriously.” I just love this conclusion, thumbs up.

  • Lifestyle Prayers

    Your personal story of grieving the passing of your grandma speaks of a person who is learning how to mourn the loss of someone they love. Thanks for sharing this story in a way that allows people to find hope and to be real with their emotions.

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      Wow Matthew, I feel honored to receive your compliment! I’m glad I could glorify Christ in this post, and I hope it encouraged you.

  • Melanie Pickett

    Grief is horrible but we have to go through it. That’s the only way out. I’ve lost a close friend, both my parents, and a husband and I’ve had to grieve. It’s normal and necessary, or else you’ll carry it with you and it’ll come out when you least expect or want it to. The good news is God walks through all that junk with us. Thank you for addressing this!

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      Thank you for sharing Melanie! It’s so true. Holding onto that pain only causes even more loss and pain for our future. God bless you!

  • Wendy Brydge

    So true. Some people will even question how you can be sad if you believe in life after death, insinuating that if you grieve the death of a loved one, you must not really believe. But the belief that your loved one is in a better place and no longer suffering doesn’t mean you don’t miss them! We don’t grieve because we think the person has ceased existing. We grieve because we can’t be with them right now. Death isn’t about feeling bad for the deceased — it’s about feeling bad for ourselves! WE are the ones left behind. We aren’t sad for them, we’re sad for US. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. If someone died and we didn’t miss them, then how could we ever claim to have loved them?

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      Exactly Wendy! That’s why the Bible said that we DO grieve, though our grief is filled with hope. Grieving is loving, and I truly believe that grieving with God can show more faith than not letting yourself express your emotions out of fear or piety. Thank you for commenting! 😊

      • Melinda Simon

        Emily Susanne, Thank you so much for this post on Grief. It is beautiful and feels so very true and so very wise. I agree, that only in moving through my grief, in opening myself to its many intimate layers, am I able to heal my heart, to feel God’s love fully, and to once again experience joy. The only way to escape the pain and sorrow of grief is to never experience love and that is too great a price to pay.

        • fearfullywonderfullyme

          Yes Melinda, so true! 😊 I’m starting to learn how to process these feelings in a healthy way, and it does make a difference. Avoiding pain is NEVER worth avoiding love. ❤️ Thanks for your lovely comment.

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