How to Find Your Self Worth
confidence,  faith,  recovery

How to Find Your Self Worth

This is going to sound totally cliché, but I had a real “God moment” at Chick Fil A a couple of weeks ago.

While I waited for my food, I noticed an older woman sitting in a wheel chair. My heart just melted. For some reason she reminded me of my grandma, who passed away last year.

The woman and I introduced ourselves and discussed flowers. As I was leaving the restaurant, she said something that caught me off guard:

It’s nice to know you. 

How many people do we meet everyday, yet we don’t even really know or see their worth? 

At that moment, when I looked into the woman’s dark yet vibrant eyes, I realized how important it is to actually be known by someone. To slow down and look at a person’s face and take it all in. To find out that their favorite flower is a purple cone flower.

If you want to know the key to finding your self worth, then please keep reading. 

Worth in Creation

There are a lot of people who are lost, not realizing their identity and worth in Christ. I know this because I was that person. As a teenager I didn’t feel like anyone saw me–unless they were looking at my flaws.

I know I’m not the only one who understands these feelings. Many teens and adults have experienced this. Maybe even you, lovely reader.

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” (Jeremiah 1:5 NIV

It still blows my mind to know that God created me and set me apart–and it was for His own will and pleasure! You are not an accident, lovely one. No matter what anyone else says–whether they are a parent, friend, or someone else close to you–you matter.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. (Psalm 139:13-14 NIV

Not only are we created by God, but He thinks we’re awesome! Although we are sinners, as soon as we come to know Christ, we are washed clean by His blood. This is when we can shine God’s light and see what He sees in us.

Worth in Relationship

“I am the good shepherd; I know my sheep and my sheep know me—” (John 10:14 NIV)

When we choose to follow Jesus, we enter into a relationship with Him that is more dynamic than we could ever fathom. Not only does God know us, but now we can get to know Him.

And that’s not all. Through this lifelong journey, we can also get to know ourselves. We can discover our strengths, weaknesses, and talents. We can watch God’s purpose for our lives unfold as we build a life with Him.

The only way you’ll ever find your worth is if you find yourself in Jesus. You won’t find it in earthly things like work, success, or relationships.

God knows you, and He wants every single piece of your heart. It’s amazing when somebody knows you, but there is nothing like being known by the King who created you. 

Thanks for reading! Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below 🙂

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  • Courtney

    Lovely post Emily! So true that many people have yet to find their identity/worth in Christ. That was my journey through my own teen years as well. Sorry for the long time absence from your blog, but I’m going to try to read more frequently! God bless!

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      Thanks for commenting Courtney! I’m glad you were able to relate to this post. And don’t worry, I still need to catch up with yours! God bless you girly ❤️

  • Edith

    We need constant affirmation of our worth in the Lord because the world is pushing false standards upon us that define us as unworthy except we dance to its tune. Thanks for sharing this.

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      Thanks for your comment Edith! You’re spot on. That’s why my blog is focused on showing women their identity in Christ. Because we can never be reminded enough! God bless you!

  • keisharussell84

    Beautifully written!! I agree that the only way to truly find our worth is through Jesus Christ. What a great reminder to stop and engage with those around us.

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      Amen! I believe that taking the time to love and value others helps us to love and value ourselves. Thanks for your comment!

  • ginabad

    Such a beautiful post! It’s amazing how we struggle with our self-worth even after we’ve found Jesus’ love. I have this a lot on my mind lately, for my children.

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      Yes, because the devil will do anything to keep us from living as children of the King. I’m so glad you want to give your children a firm foundation in Christ! Thanks for commenting ❤️

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