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3 Myths About Purity (And the Freeing Truth)

There’s a girl driving by a church, shaking her head because she knows she’ll never fit in. She’s slept with more than just one guy, and is now too dirty to enter heaven. How could God ever want her when all she was good for was her body?

There’s a girl in youth group, pretending to have it all together. No one needs to know that she went just a little too far with her boyfriend. It was no big deal anyway. It was just a passionate make out session, right?

There’s a girl listening to a sermon on Sunday morning, nodding her head to the line about purity. She has been saving herself for marriage for over two decades now. She takes great pride in her purity, and knows it will bring her the reward of a good husband one day.

Do any of these girls resonate with you, lovely one? I know I can relate. The thing is, all three of these girls are buying into the myths about purity that have pervaded our culture.

It’s time to find the truth in God’s Word and be set free. It’s time to expose the 3 myths about purity, and discover what true purity really is.

Myth #1: Purity is Achievable 

Perhaps the biggest lie surrounding purity is that it comes from our own actions. That somehow, we can make ourselves pure if we act a certain way or abstain from certain things.

If this were true, then we wouldn’t need a Savior. The truth is, all of us give into issues with lust or sexual boundaries in some way–even if it’s just in our minds.

Purity encompasses more than just sex anyway. Sin is what makes us impure. And guess what? We’re all affected by it. Since the fall of man in the book of Genesis, we have all suffered from the stain of sin.

But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. (1 John 1:7 NIV)

When Jesus died on the cross, He sacrificed Himself to free us from all of our sins. We are cleansed only by the power of His blood, not by our own actions.

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Myth #2: Sex is Not Sacred

Another myth about sex is the idea that sex itself is impure or dirty. Just the mention of the word makes us blush, right?

But the  truth is that sex is pure, beautiful, and sacred–in the covenant of marriage.

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 NIV)

God ordained marriage so that a man and a woman could become one in every way, including physically. Sex is for more than just procreation, although that is miraculous in itself. Sex is an expression of powerful love and bonding reserved exclusively for marriage.

God isn’t withholding sex from us because He wants to ruin our fun. He is a good Father who loves His children, and He wants what’s best for us. It can definitely be hard to wait, especially in modern culture. But it’s worth it. 

The world wants to sell us a cheap counterfeit of sex with no limits, but this is damaging. We all know of the consequences of premarital sex. Saving yourself for a loving, Godly marriage will be way more fulfilling than the counterfeit the world has to offer.

Myth #3: Sexual Sin is Unforgivable 

The final myth about purity that needs to be exposed is that once you’ve had sex, or lusted in any way, that you’re beyond redemption.

We tend to treat sexual sin as if it were the worst sin to commit, when in reality, sin is sin. Yes, sexual sin does have earthly consequences that are painful, such as emotional trauma or damaged marriages.

But no matter what you’ve done, you are never beyond God’s salvation. Jesus doesn’t want your perfection. He wants you to submit your life to Him and let His love transform you.

…while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good. (Titus 2:13-14 NIV)

Remember those three girls you first read about? It doesn’t matter which one you’ve identified yourself with.  As a daughter of God, you have been called to find yourself in in His Son. The world can never take your purity away when it’s rooted in Jesus.

purity rooted in Jesus

Purity isn’t a chore, and it isn’t something than can be achieved. It does not bring us the reward of a future spouse, nor does it condemn us forever. When we choose to fully give our lives to Christ, we then discover what purity really is–a life surrendered to God.


For more on purity, check out this awesome post by blogger, Ashleigh Rich! 

Thanks for reading! Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below 🙂

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10 Comments

  1. Hey good read, love it….but its still not an excuse to indulge in sexual sin

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      April 15, 2018 at 7:51 pm

      Hey Ana! Thank you for reading and commenting. I totally agree that we should not make excuses for any sin, and that was not my intention in this post at all. My goal is to show that purity is more than just our actions; it’s a lifestyle of being surrendered to Christ. We can all be redeemed from sexual sin and grow in purity as we become more like Christ. He will show us through the Holy Spirit the boundaries we should follow in our lives. What an amazing gift!

  2. You have no idea how much this post resonated with me. It could only be inspired by the Spirit! Thank you for allowing God use you to share this must-read message.

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      April 7, 2018 at 2:27 am

      Wow, Mfon! Thank you so much. I praise God for helping me to write like this. I’m so glad this could touch your life. 🙂

  3. Thank you for your post. I’m not interested in a relationship ever, but do fantisize about a certain celebrity. I don’t have much going on in my life and find comfort in the fantisizing. I don’t think I’m committing adultry in my mind, especially since I will never meet him. What are your thoughts?

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      April 4, 2018 at 11:13 pm

      Hey there! Thank you so much for your kind words and for reaching out. I must admit that I have fantasized about celebrities too. It’s so easy to do! Now, only you know what your thoughts are, so it’s not for me to judge. Matthew 5:28 does state that “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (This would apply to men as well). You mentioned wanting to find comfort. Perhaps this fantasizing is replacing the hole only God can fill? Because no relationship can fill it (only temporarily). Keep opening up to God about these things and maybe He will show you more on it. Perhaps maybe just plugging into the Christian community will help as well. 🙂

  4. Well said, Emily for sure.

  5. Great post, Emily! I pray others are encouraged by this.

    • fearfullywonderfullyme

      April 4, 2018 at 4:56 pm

      Thank you Beckie! I think it’s important to shine a light on topics that normally aren’t discussed.

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