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Well, unsurprisingly another scandal has hit.This time being one that ruffles our Christian feathers before we shake it away. Josh Duggar, a star from the show 19 Kids and Counting who was already discovered to have molested his siblings as a teenager–has been caught in the big Ashley Madison hack.

In case you aren’t aware, Ashley Madison is a dating website for people who are married and want to have an affair. I can’t even make this stuff up. Millions of users were caught in the hack, so it’s definitely not just Duggar who is involved.

I have a strong hunch that there were several hundred–if not thousands–of Christians who were on that site. I also bet a good portion of them are women. Why? Because sins such as lust, adultery, and pornography are struggles that anyone can face–devout Christian or not; male or female.

If you don’t believe me, then go to fightthenewdrug.org or covenanteyes.com and look at the facts and statistics. Why is sexual purity and the struggle for it never really discussed in church? In fact, why are all of the other “hot button” issues like depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and modesty not ever talked about?

Sure we may throw in a generic sermon here and there or give counseling when an individual is ravaged by their sin/addiction/mental illness, but this is not enough.

I didn’t grow up in church. My parents taught me about God, and I attended services occasionally. However, I was probably like the majority of American kids who identified as Christian. I was a luke-warm believer. Anyway, I saw firsthand the destruction and devastation that happened to my fellow peers in school, and even I, like everyone else, could not escape the clutches of sin.

People are not perfect, and unless you live in a bubble your whole life, you will sin and see sin around you. The whole bubble thing didn’t work out for Josh Duggar either. In fact, it looks like it backfired on him.

Although we are not supposed to be of the world, we are in it (John 15:19). Unless you’re reading this from another planet, then most likely you know just how broken this world can be.

It’s the church’s responsibility to not ignore some of the most difficult and devastating sins such as pornography. Church is not a place where a bunch of perfect people go to congregate and drink coffee. 

 And their scribes and the Pharisees complained against His disciples, saying, “Why do You eat and drink with tax collectors and sinners?” Jesus answered and said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners, to repentance” (Luke 5:30-32 NKJV).

I’m not saying that we should harp on people and try to save them from everything they do, but we need to create safe havens in our sanctuaries and small groups where people can stop feeling like they are secret black sheep of sin.

If you look at the Bible, Jesus and the other apostles all spoke of difficult subjects such as adultery, modesty, gluttony, and much more. They didn’t do it to judge anyone or to pass out a pamphlet so the subject was covered.

If we really want people to heal and live the best life that God intended for them, then we must start talking about these issues and start seeing all people for who they really are–loved by the Most High God. 

Once we start loving our brothers and sisters the way Jesus does, our motivations will become pure and the Holy Spirit can move in to change all of our lives.

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How the Duggar Scandal Reinforces Our Need for Jesus

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I’m pretty sure that by now the whole country knows of the Duggar scandal. If not, then I will fill you in on the basics of the situation. The hit show 19 Kids and Counting is about a conservative Christian family with 19 kids. It was discovered that one of the grown up and married children, Josh Duggar, molested five young girls (reports stating that some of the victims are his own sisters) when he was a teenager.

I’m just going to be open about this and admit that I loved that show. Seriously…I would faithfully watch it every Tuesday night and talk about how awesome I thought they were. I don’t watch a lot of TV. I find cartoons more entertaining than the “adult” shows that are on cable. About six months ago, I saw Jill Duggar’s wedding on TV and got hooked. Needless to say, finding out about this whole scandal while I was up north was quite a shock and a disappointment.

And that’s when I realized, why am I shocked by this? These are human beings! They are a family that has 19 kids–certainly there’s going to be drama somewhere. What Josh Duggar did was wrong, and clearly there needs to be action taken to help the victims if they have not already gotten it (as well as help for Josh). But we need to remember that Josh and the rest of the Duggars are no better than the rest of us.

The point of this post is not to defend or condemn the Duggars (there are millions of people online who are doing that job). I want people to realize what I have realized: we are all broken and in need of a savior. I thought that the Duggars were so righteous with all of their rules and super-conservative dress and dating principles.

However, our behaviors and human rules do not make us righteous–Jesus does. 

[And] be found in Him, not having my own righteousness, which is from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which is from God by faith; (Philippians 3:9 NKJV).

It’s okay to feel let down when people fail to meet our expectations or commit sin, but what we need to do is turn to Jesus and say, “I need you too Lord. Help me because I’m a sinner.”

We need to value each other and hold other believers to higher standards, but more importantly, we need to examine our own lives and how we are behaving. We need to keep relying on the grace of God and be forgiving of each other.

Examine yourselves as to whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Do you not know yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you are disqualified (2 Corinthians 13:5).

I want to send this message to all Christians–especially new believers or those struggling in the faith–do not let the actions of the Duggar family, or any other Christian public figure, make you doubt your faith. The flaws of this family and every other Christian family in the world only prove our need for Jesus. We continually need to seek Him and His righteousness; we cannot be made perfect by ourselves (Philippians 3:12-14).

Christ is our hope. Let us rejoice and be thankful that God loves us just the way we are right now as we continue in faith!

Love, Emily <3

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