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Christians, It’s Okay to Grieve

Christians can be some of the most encouraging, helpful people on earth. But when it comes to grief, we have a lot of work to do. Since my grandma died last summer, I find myself stumbling across Christian blog posts and advice about “overcoming grief” or “finding joy” instead of pain.

It can be very tempting to encourage others to fly past their grief. Believe me, I know. But it does more harm than good. I don’t want to blame my fellow Christians here though. I think American culture has ingrained a tough, busy exterior in us that doesn’t really allow the process of grief.

But did you know that it’s okay to grieve? In fact, it’s even Biblical!

Jesus Knows Grief

He is despised and rejected by men, A Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. And we hid, as it were, our faces from Him; He was despised, and we did not esteem Him. (Isaiah 53:3 NKJV)

Jesus is described as one acquainted with grief–a Man of sorrows. Our God knows what it means to bear grief and sadness. When Jesus came down to earth, He was met with a mess of pain and suffering. Our grief.

Our greatest comfort should be in knowing that God understands our mourning. To grieve the loss of someone is to express your love for them. And since Jesus is love, He wants that affection to pour out of us through our loss.

There’s a Time to Grieve

To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven…A time to weep, And a time to laugh; A time to mourn, And a time to dance; (Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4 NKJV)

The Bible tells us there is a time for everything. Life isn’t just one big party (I know, surprise), and there are times when it is appropriate to feel sad. The wonderful news is that grief doesn’t last forever. Though we may always miss our loved ones, God does give us joy and laughter in time.

Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted. (Matthew 5:4 NKJV)

Not only is it okay for us to grieve, but Jesus actually gives those in mourning a blessing. God sees our troubles and sorrows here on earth. His heart breaks for us, and as long as we stay faithful, we will be rewarded for our season of grief.

There’s Hope in Grief

Jesus wept (John 11:35). This is a famous Bible verse because it is so short, yet so moving. Jesus was heartbroken when his good friend Lazarus died. He knew He would raise him from the dead, but His overwhelming love for Lazarus and his family broke through in tears. Yet there is hope in the final victory of Lazarus’ resurrection.

Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. (1 Thessalonians 4:13-14 NIV)

There’s hope for you too, lovely one. If you’re grieving a loved one right now, please know that you have hope in Jesus. He is our greatest comfort, and our only hope for eternity with those we’ve lost.

Grieving Victoriously

When I lost my grandma, it hit me in a way I never expected. I was in shock and tried to bury the pain for months. I ended up having panic attacks from the trauma of watching her pass over, which made me feel even worse.

The same questions kept playing like a broken record inside my head. Why was my grief so different? Why couldn’t I just cry for a month and get better like other people?

I truly believe that God was trying to teach me a lesson about grief and how it can draw us closer to Him. Sometimes things happen in life that bring us to a place where all we have left is our faith. These are the moments God wants to use to invade our lives. 

It’s okay to grieve. You have permission to cry, panic, or be numb. It’s okay to not be okay, to miss someone.

The important thing is that you don’t lose sight of Jesus. He’s there to hold you and walk you through this season of pain. With God, we have all we need to mourn victoriously.


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What Really Builds Faith

This  post is actually excerpts from an essay that I wrote for my World Religions class. It’s about how faith is built through the trials we face, and I hope it inspires you even in life’s most difficult challenges!

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We all know the phrase, “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” How much do we really believe this? No one is ever asking for tough times to happen so they can become stronger or learn to have better faith. Sometimes we think that faith grows tremendously only in the good times.

In Genesis 22, God asked Abraham to offer up his son Isaac as a sacrifice. This can be seen as a very negative request. Why would God do something so cruel? Why did Abraham not turn his back on God? After all, God did ask Abraham to do something very difficult: give up what he loved most in order to test his faith. The reason God did this is because life’s challenges can make us stronger and increase our faith.

Abraham and Sarah wanted a child for most of their lives. Abraham needed an heir for his inheritance, so it would only make sense how much he appreciated the gift of his son Isaac in his old age. Again, this only makes God seem crueler in His asking Abraham to kill his son. Only Abraham did not see God this way. As he was leaving with his son he said to his men, “‘stay here with the donkey; the lad and I will go yonder and worship, and we will come back to you’” (Genesis 22:5 NKJV).

This shows that Abraham had the confidence that his son would be spared. Why would a man who was just told by God to kill his beloved son be so confident that everything would be okay? He did not protest or seem to get upset at God—Abraham simply complied with God’s command. This proves that he had faith.

Abraham knew that God would keep His promises to him. He knew that if he trusted God, then everything would be okay. Although he did not know how it would work out exactly, Abraham had the hope that God would come through. When his son Isaac asked Abraham where the burnt offering was to sacrifice, Abraham said, “’my son, God will provide for Himself the lamb for a burnt offering’” (Genesis 22:8 NKJV).

He had faith that God would provide the offering and spare his son. Maybe he did not know exactly how it would end, but Abraham decided to have courage and go through his trial. In the end, everything did work out just fine. Right when Abraham was about to kill Isaac, God stopped him and sent a ram to be the sacrifice instead. Abraham’s faith was tested, and he passed.

The Bible says that everyone is granted with a measure of faith (Romans 12:3), and that measure of faith can be seen everyday!

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We have faith when we get up in the morning that our car will start so we can go to class or work. We have faith that when we call a friend or loved one that they will be alive and well to answer. Everyone has a measure of faith given to them, and the trials in our lives can either break or strengthen our faith. Abraham’s test could have broken him and turn him away from God, but instead he used it as an opportunity to strengthen his faith.

We all have that basic measure of faith, but making it through difficulties is what truly builds our faith. With Abraham, God wanted to see if he had enough faith in Him for future hardships. If Abraham could not trust God through the trial with his son, then he could not trust God through other difficulties such as loss, sickness, or other disaster.

Once Abraham saw that God came through and stopped him from killing his son, he knew that he could have faith that God would bring him through any other circumstance.

I faced a great hardship last year when my grandpa died. He fell down the stairs and suffered a massive stroke. It took him five days to die, and I was there to help him pass on. My grandma is very sickly, and now my mother and I are responsible for taking care of her. This was a season I never thought I would get through. If I did not have faith in God and that everything would get better in time, I would have broken down completely.

At first, I could not understand why God would throw these hardships my way. I almost felt abandoned—much like Abraham probably did when he held that knife above his son. But I knew I had to have faith. Looking back, I can see God’s hand throughout this part of my life. Not only did He bring me through it, but He also made me stronger, compassionate, and more mature.

God used that challenge to build me up for the future and to increase my faith in Him. I now know that when other, possibly greater, challenges come my way that God will remain faithful. I know that I will get through anything that comes my way with faith in Jesus Christ. I know that the victory that comes from having great faith is always worth it in the end.  

What has God gotten you through that has helped to build your faith? Please comment below! 🙂

Love, Emily <3

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