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Music Videos and the Message of Modesty

When I clicked on Lauren Daigle’s music video for her new song “You Say,” I was amazed at her beautiful voice and powerful lyrics of discovering our identity in Christ. Knowing our identity as God’s daughters is a major theme of my blog, so of course this song is playing on my phone non-stop.

But that’s not the only thing I noticed about the video. Right when I clicked on it and saw Ms. Daigle’s yellow crop top, I knew she was walking a tricky tightrope.

Christians in the comments section were divided. Some said that modesty standards are too prude, and that men should learn to control their own lust. Others said that examples like this could hurt teen girls and convince believers that the Bible isn’t serious in its call for modesty.

To be honest, I find truth in all of these positions. It saddens my heart that such a beautiful song like “You Say” is overlooked by people fighting over Ms. Daigle’s outfit. However, I felt the need to write this post, as I can see that modesty is still a big issue in this culture.

Shifting Standards

Modesty is an important virtue and should not be ignored. However, we must also fight the tendency of our hearts to fall into legalistic rules regarding clothing.

Standards of modesty vary by culture. Although bearing our middles in the U.S. is what many would consider immodest, in other countries, it’s everyday fashion. And although it’s normal for women to wear jeans in many countries, it’s actually frowned upon in others.

Our standards of dress change just from time of day. For example, my office attire isn’t the same as the clothing I wear on a casual lunch date with friends. 

The point is, when we come up with all of these legalistic standards on what is modest or what is not, we fall into the trap of the enemy. The devil would rather have us busy over measuring everyone’s hemlines than on giving to charities or preaching the Gospel.

It’s easy to fall for the lie that our clothing or actions help us earn God’s grace. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. Our clothing does not determine our salvation or God’s love for us. Only the sacrifice of Jesus does that.

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8-9 NIV)

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Outward Focus

When our heart is focused on what others are doing or how they are dressed, we put ourselves at risk for judging others.

I admit that sometimes I look at the way a person is dressed and may think that it is improper and not setting a good example. However, I don’t know anything about this person and where they are in their walk with God.

When we judge others for what they wear or other things that we don’t agree with, we are the ones who ultimately lose. Instead of finding common ground and ways to connect with one another, we build walls. This isn’t what Jesus would do.

I’m not saying we can’t judge whether an action is sinful or not. If you’re in a close relationship with a sister in Christ who is clearly backsliding, you can gently shed God’s light into her life to help her repent. But that can only come from a heart that’s free of judgment against the person.

“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.” (Matthew 7:1-2 NIV)

Judging other Christians based on their convictions can keep us from seeing the issues in our own hearts. Perhaps instead of questioning a music artist’s clothing choice, we should examine our own wardrobe.

The Case for Modesty

So far we’ve established that modesty varies by culture and often falls victim to legalistic standards. We’ve also explored judging others based on choices like clothing, and how that can harm our witness.

That being said, there is still a case for modesty. I’ve written about the subject many times, and I fully believe what Scripture says about modesty. So let’s break it down.

in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works. (1 Timothy 2:9-10 NKJV)

The key word here is moderation. Although many people think modesty is about not tempting guys, that really isn’t the point of these verses. Women in this Biblical time period were too focused on their looks and getting attention through their clothing. This is something women (and men) still struggle with today.  

True modesty means balance. We shouldn’t walk around looking like we’re from the 1800’s. However, we need to avoid clothes that are too revealing, costly, or attention getting.

Modesty is a heart issue. You can dress up head to toe in a burlap sack and still miss the point if your heart isn’t focused on Jesus. Whenever we get dressed, we should ask ourselves if this outfit reflects our identity as royal daughters of God.

Lauren Daigle’s video is a sign of the deeper need we have to connect with our identity in God. Instead of focusing on her shirt, I’m going to focus on her beautiful music and the amazing message of our worth in Christ. This is the message that truly matters.


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How to Style~Jumpsuits

Hello lovely readers and followers! Happy Halloween 🙂 I don’t know about you, but I’m enjoying the treats and cute kids running around in their costumes. I think it helps to start the week off on a holiday.

A fashion trend I’ve been wanting to try is the jumpsuit. I know they’ve been in style for a while now, but I think I’m just starting to muster the courage to try one out (I know, I’m slow lol). Today’s fashion post is all about styling jumpsuits!

 

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I chose gray for this collage because I am addicted to it. I cannot stress enough about how flattering gray is on everyone, and it is also a great neutral for the upcoming holidays (yup, they’re closer than you think!).

A loose-fitting jumpsuit with tapered legs and a cinched waist is flattering for most shapes. A cropped sweater makes a great cover-cup, and can also add some modesty and class. Don’t forget the booties–a simple wedge is perfect for this time of year. I also think a statement piece of jewelry like a nice bracelet or necklace helps to pull off the glamorous side of the jumpsuit.

Style Tips to Remember

  • Find a figure flattering jumpsuit for your shape.
  • Add a cute cover-up (such as a cropped sweater or jacket)
  • Pair with wedge booties 
  • Wear a statement piece of jewelry

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What I Really Learned About Modesty

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Hello dear readers and followers! Spring is in the air, and if you read last Friday’s post, you can tell I am excited for warm weather fashion. In that post I also gave some tips on how to dress modestly. Which begs the question, what is this modesty thing all about?

I began my modesty journey last summer as I grew deeper in my Christian faith. I also wrote a blog post on the importance of modesty that you can read here. Since that time I have learned a lot about what it means to dress like a daughter of God. Some of it may surprise you, but I hope it helps and inspires you!

1. Modesty Isn’t About Preventing Lust

I think this concept baffles most Christians and is the major reason modesty isn’t taught or preached about. A lot of times we hear that the reason we should dress modestly is to protect Christian men from lust. We need to make sure to keep our chest and legs covered in order to not be a temptation.

While it is nice to think of our brothers in Christ, this isn’t really the point of modesty (I know, this shocked me too). The thing is, men are the ones who are responsible for their lust, and as this blog pointed out quite well–what is modest for one man could just as easily tempt another.

So if modesty isn’t for men, then why is it important? 

in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works (1 Timothy 2:9-10 NKJV).

I don’t see anything in this scripture about lust or sexual attraction. Actually, this seems to be Paul scolding some women for focusing on the latest and most expensive fashion trends rather than Kingdom work. The key word here is the moderation. There is nothing wrong with wearing jewelry or nice clothing, but we need to remember that there is more to life than fashion (and this is coming from a fashion blogger!).

Modesty is about not letting our clothing consume us or distract us from God. It’s about letting God’s grace and love define us rather than our appearance. I think that’s why Paul specifically wrote this to the women of that time rather than the men. We are more likely to get caught up with fashion and appearance (no matter what the time period). Again, there’s nothing wrong with looking nice and going shopping, but we have to learn moderation. This also applies to men, but this blog’s focus is on the ladies.

2. Modesty Looks Different on Everyone

We are all built differently. Some of us are taller while others are shorter. Some girls are thin while other girls are curvy. This is how God designed us, and it is beautiful! That being said, modesty will look different on all of these different body types.

For example, a pair of shorts or a skirt may cover a woman of average height quite well, but it could expose a tall woman’s body in a way she didn’t intend to! We need to dress for our bodies, and not according to the women around us. 

Modesty also looks different depending on culture. What’s modest in America is not the same as the Middle East. Culture is beautiful and to be respected. Legalistic dress codes just don’t make any sense when you take this into account.

That being said, Jesus transcends all cultures–and dressing with moderation, discretion, and dignity is to be expected of all followers of Christ. This is why we need to let the Holy Spirit to convict us and guide us when it comes to dressing modestly.

3. Modesty Makes You Feel Like a Princess

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Picture this: You’re all dolled up in a pretty dress (or nice jeans), a good jacket, and cute shoes. Doesn’t this make you feel pretty and confident? Of course it does! Sometimes all it takes to get the day rolling is getting dressed and putting on some lip gloss.

But there’s more to it than that. As a follower of Jesus Christ and a daughter of God, you are royalty. Don’t believe me?

 But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light (1 Peter 2:9 NKJV).

Now as royalty, you can’t just walk around dressed any way you want. Take the famous Kate Middleton for example. Would she go out in booty shorts or a revealing bikini? Probably not. This is because she knows she’s royalty. Therefore she clothes herself with dignity and respect. She’s representing her kingdom and she knows it!

We can be representatives of God’s kingdom by the way we dress as well. When you get ready in the morning, put on clothes that a dignified princess would wear. Obviously you wouldn’t walk out in a ball gown, but you would dress classy and discretely (while still looking beautiful).

Remember–modesty is about humility. Our appearance should never distract us from our good works and advancing God’s Kingdom. It should enhance and complement our lives–but never overpower. If you dress with dignity, class, and grace then you will achieve a look of modesty that will inspire those around you. 

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 Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God (1 Peter 3:3-4 NKJV). 

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