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More Than Good Enough


Good enough. It’s something that, like me, you have probably tried to achieve. As a Christian, sometimes we turn Jesus’ statement to love Him by keeping the commandments (John 14:15) into a burdening chore that we can’t simply accomplish on our own.

We try to look right–wear nice clothing and have pretty hair and a toned figure. We try to eat right–healthy and not too much. We try to obey our parents and keep them happy. We try to be hard workers, good friends, charitable, and leaders in our church and community.

This is all suffocating. No wonder we burn out or get crazy anxiety. Is it just me, or do women get the brunt of all this pressure for perfection? We are expected to look, think, and act like angelic saints.

No one really fits this mold. We can look at our neighbor or friend and assume she’s got it all figured out. She is beautiful, confident, and all put together. But the truth of the matter is that everyone is thinking the same thing we are. Sadly, most of us compare ourselves to our friends and family (which isn’t necessarily a bad thing when done with a healthy mindset).

The thing is, no one can be perfect. I had a wise professor who once said, “nobody’s perfect. Only one perfect person existed, and look what they did to Him!”

A little blunt, but true. Jesus is perfect because He isn’t just human, He’s God. He gets us and understands the weight and pressure to be “good enough.” Jesus understands the weight of the Law upon our shoulders–which is why He took it from us and placed it on His own. 

We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to our own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all (Isaiah 53:6 NIV). 

I have been writing a lot on grace lately because it is something the Lord is helping me understand in my own life. My performance or works cannot save me. Only the blood of Jesus and my faith in Him can save me. 

Love cannot be earned. It was already bought by the perfect blood of Jesus Christ. 

However, to the one who does not work but trusts God who justifies the ungodly, their faith is credited as righteousness (Romans 4:5 NIV).

In this world, we may have to work and perform, but Jesus is our rest (Matthew 11:30). God’s love conquers all of our imperfections, and our trust in His love is what sustains our faith. I think Angela Thomas described the love of God for us perfectly in her book, Do You Think I’m Beautiful?

God’s love is unrelenting. He does not turn away even if you do. –Angela Thomas (p. 25).

It does not matter how far we fall or how imperfect we are. We may not always do, say, or think the right things, but Jesus is powerful enough to make up for whatever we may lack. Walking in this love is what frees us from the chains of “good enough” living. Knowing God’s unfailing love is what allows us to walk in abundant, freeing faith.

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Crazy Little Thing Called Grace


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I’ll admit it, sometimes being a Christian can feel like being in a circus act. We must say the right things, do the right things, and think the right thoughts. Oh, and let’s not forget that joyful attitude we’re always supposed to have.

This isn’t how it should be. And you know what? This is one of the major things wrong with modern-day “Christianity.” It’s the religion that preaches mercy for others while letting you beat up on yourself. This isn’t Christianity at all! So what happened?

It’s simple–we forgot about grace. The crazy little thing about grace is that it cannot be earned; it can only be received. Grace is God’s greatest gift to us.

Although we (hopefully) nod our heads and agree that we should extend this grace to our stumbling brothers and sisters, what about ourselves? I’m a perfectionist by nature, and I also struggle with anxiety. Although most of the time I am merciful toward others, I have a hard time forgiving myself.

I, like a lot of people, place a lot of undue pressure on myself. I expect perfection and to be just like Jesus, only to forget that He is the only perfect thing in me. I forget that I’m allowed (and expected) to screw up. I forget that I have an Advocate in heaven who is quick to forgive me and lift me up when I stumble.

My little children, these things I write to you, so that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous.  And He Himself is the propitiation for our sins, and not for ours only but also for the whole world (1 John 2:1-2 NKJV).

I forget how far I’ve come in my walk with Jesus. One thing is for certain, this obsessive anxiety with being so good and perfect is not helping me in the least. In fact, it’s turning myself inward so much that I forget about God and the needs of the people He has placed in my life. This is exactly what the devil wants.

And you know what? I’m not going to let this perfectionism and anxiety get me down. I’m going to rest in the grace of the Most High God, and I’m going to forgive myself for beating myself up. It’s time to let go and enjoy life. It’s time to be led by the Holy Spirit completely, instead of expecting to get the job done myself. It’s time to abide in the peace and joy of God’s love.

 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom (2 Corinthians 3:17 NIV).

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