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The Truth About Shame

I have a confession to make. I am twenty-three years old, and am just learning how to drive. It’s a huge victory in my battle with a chronic illness that prevented me from driving. But it’s also a struggle.

Learning to drive isn’t easy–at least not for me (and not for the poor souls who help me practice). And to be honest, it makes me anxious. Though I am getting better with every lesson, I still feel a terrible, self-defeating feeling that shrouds me in darkness.

I’m talking about shame.

The Poison of Shame

Merriam-Webster defines shame as “a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety.” This feeling, lovely reader, is the weapon the devil uses to try and condemn us.

It’s normal and healthy to feel guilty when one does something wrong.  Guilt can lead us to repentance, which then sets us free. It’s also normal to feel insecure, which again, can also be freeing when we learn to seek our worth in Christ.

But what about that feeling of condemnation, no matter how many times you repent? What about that feeling of not being good enough, no matter how hard you try?

When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made you alive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross. (Colossians 2:13-14 NIV)

Shame is a poison that seeps into our lives even when we are born again in Christ. We have to remember that we are dead to sin, and that Christ nailed all condemnation to the cross. It’s not our sin that makes us feel condemned, but the shame that the enemy uses to make us believe we are separated from God.

The Power of the Cross

…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. (Hebrews 12:2 NIV)

As a Christian, I have heard the story of the cross countless times. But what really makes me understand Christ’s sacrifice is watching a movie or reenactment of the crucifixion. Then I can clearly see the shame Jesus bore while he was mocked, stripped, and beaten–all alone.

And guess what? He did it for me, and He did it for you! Our God chose to take on human form in order to understand the temptations we face and the struggles we battle. Though Jesus knew no sin, He did know our shame. And He took it upon Himself in order to free us and bring us eternal joy.

Freedom from Shame

‘“Do not be afraid; you will not be put to shame. Do not fear disgrace; you will not be humiliated. You will forget the shame of your youth and remember no more the reproach of your widowhood.’ (Isaiah 54:4 NIV)

We all make mistakes. We all have our weaknesses and failures.  And we all sin–no matter how hard we try not to. It’s part of the human condition. The good news is that we can always run to Jesus for forgiveness and freedom.

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I know that I’m not perfect, and that learning to drive, like all things, takes patience. Although at times I may fail, I know that God always brings good out of the bad.

Jesus is the fresh start from our past mistakes. He is our joy and strength, despite our human weakness. Jesus is our freedom from sin and the shame that binds us. 

The truth about shame is that it’s a lie. A lie meant to steal, kill, and destroy God’s precious children. But we have access to the only antidote on earth–the powerful and freeing truth of the love of Jesus.


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The Lie of the Good Enough Christian

Most of the time my Instagram feed is filled with posts about fashion and food (which are two things  I am very passionate about). However, there are posts that really make you stop and think wow, I really needed that.

I wanted to share one of these posts from @cultureandgod with you today.

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Do you ever feel like God is unapproachable? Maybe you’ve repented of your sins and asked Jesus to be your Lord and Savior. Now what? How do I become a good enough Christian? How do I prove myself worthy to God?

The simple truth is that you can’t. Sorry to all of my fellow recovering perfectionists out there, but you will never be  good enough to earn salvation. None of us are.

That’s okay, Jesus has us covered. When you realized He died on the cross for you and accepted His Lordship, you were washed in His blood. God no longer sees your sins. When He looks at you, He sees you through the eyes of perfect love.

 But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ (Ephesians 2:13 NKJV).

Isn’t that freeing? You don’t have to perform or try to earn God’s love. He’s already defeated sin and death. That just really amazes me. I don’t need to be a good enough Christian because I have a better than life Savior!

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Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new (2 Corinthians 5:17 NKJV).

Maybe you’re a new Christian, or maybe you’ve been a part of God’s family for decades. Wherever you are in your walk with the Lord, remember that you are now resurrected with Him.

God’s salvation power did not stop at the cross. He conquered the grave–which includes all of the chains that once held you and me back from Him.

You, my lovely reader, can be free from the chains of shame and perfectionism. Just lean on the only God who gave His perfect self in order to win His precious child back.


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Guilt vs Grace

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Photo by Ellen Salisbury

Thanks so much for your patience dear followers and readers! My blog schedule is a little messed up because I have been struggling with my health these past few weeks. Thank you for your support and prayers! 

Grace. It’s amazing isn’t it? At least that’s what we always sing in church or at a funeral. However, there are so many Christians who are strangers to the freeing beauty of God’s never ending grace.

Sometimes it seems that the devil will stop at nothing to keep us from the flood of grace that comes from knowing Jesus. I know that I’ve written about my perfectionist nature quite a few times and how it gets me into trouble. Lately I’ve been on a streak of self-condemnation that’s leaving me anxious and a little depressed.

Obviously things are already hard enough as I try to find ways to cope with my IBS and low blood pressure, but adding feelings of inadequacy on top of that only makes things a hundred times worse.

The thing is I am not perfect, and I won’t ever be until I make it to heaven or when Jesus comes back. The only thing perfect about me is Jesus–whose blood has washed me clean of all my sin. Nothing I do can separate me from Him. As long as I believe that He died for my sins, I am saved. And this doesn’t just go for me, but for everyone in the world!

 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved (Romans 10:9 NKJV).

There is nothing we can do to earn salvation. There is nothing we have to do to keep our salvation either (aside from faith). I guess sometimes I run around afraid that if I screw up (which I will), then God will turn His back on me and revoke my salvation. This sounds silly even as I write it, but I know I’m not alone. There’s a lot of guilty Christians out there.

I was watching a sermon from Joseph Prince recently, and what he said really ministered to me. This is a preacher who really pours the grace of God out in his sermons. He talked about how when we think our sins can take away our salvation, then we really think that the curse of Adam is stronger than the sacrifice of Jesus!

If there’s one thing I know, it’s that nothing is more powerful than God. The death and resurrection of Jesus can’t be undone. This is the Gospel. 

But this Man, after He had offered one sacrifice for sins forever, sat down at the right hand of God (Hebrews 10:12 NKJV).

Now of course this isn’t some excuse to just go about sinning like it’s no problem. On the contrary, once you experience the love and grace of Jesus Christ you don’t want to sin. You want to give up your old ways to become more like Jesus.

Now that we have learned about God’s grace, let us bask in it! Turn from your sinful ways, and let God surround you with the grace that truly is amazing.

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