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What Godly Confidence Really Looks Like

Nothing can squelch self-confidence like having health issues. Having physical limitations and not being like everyone else is hard. And it’s something I’ve struggled with for the last six years.

Although God has done tremendous healing in me and blessed me with excellent healthcare, there are still moments of struggle. One thing I choose not to do is drive. I have POTS and vertigo, which make driving uncomfortable.

I have some visual sensory issues and great anxiety with driving, and this has affected my confidence in significant ways. Not only is not being able to drive inconvenient, but it’s also a little embarrassing when you’re almost 24 years old and graduating from college. But it’s still my choice–at least for now.

The world preaches for us to have self-confidence, but what happens when that fails us? What happens when we screw up, or when the person we trusted wholeheartedly lets us down?

What I’ve learned over the past six years is that in order to have a lasting confidence, you must be rooted in God-confidence. Read on to find out what Godly confidence truly looks like.

Running to God

Where do you run to when you feel weak? Where do you turn to in times of trouble? As human beings, we tend to seek others for comfort and familiarity. This isn’t bad, as God created us to be relational people.

However, when we completely depend on others to make us feel good about ourselves, we turn into people-pleasers who can lean towards perfectionism.

“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you! (Isaiah 49:15 NIV)

The thing is, people will let us down. Even those closest to us can wound us deeply, but the Lord never will. Jesus is always there for us and goes before us. Even though it may feel like we are alone, He never abandons us.

When we realize that we can always turn to God and that He is our refuge in times of trouble and pain, we develop strong confidence when life gets rocky.

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Godly Confidence

Confidence is rooted in trust. When we trust in the Lord, we know that our confidence will never be shaken.

I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.” (Psalm 91:2 NIV)

Listening to God

It’s almost impossible to feel confident when people make you feel like you aren’t good enough, pretty enough, or smart enough. But I’ve come to realize that this will happen again and again.

Satan can even warp the words of those who love us to make us believe lies about ourselves. So who do we trust? Do we place our confidence in the words of others, hoping to hear nothing but positive things? Or do we turn elsewhere?

Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” (Matthew 4:4 NIV)

A truly confident woman roots herself in the Word of God. The Bible will always be true and relevant to our lives, no matter how much time passes.

Just look at my past posts! Everything I write is based on what the Word of God says. He says we are loved, valued, redeemed, and set free. We have purpose. Anyone who tells you otherwise is going against the truth.

Instead of believing the lies of the world, root yourself in scripture. Your confidence will grow as you begin to speak the truth over your life.

Remembering God

When we feel like life isn’t going our way, it can zap the confidence right out of us. I know I hate feeling like I’ve lost control, but the truth is, it was never in my grasp to begin with.

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps. (Proverbs 16:9 NIV)

Although we should have plans and goals for our lives, we need to remember that God is sovereign. When we forget that He is on the throne of our lives–and of the whole universe–then we start depending on ourselves.

We cannot create the perfect life for ourselves. Things happen that are beyond our control, and that can actually be for the better. Although I don’t always like having a chronic illness, my healing journey has increased my faith and led me closer to God and to people in ways I couldn’t imagine.

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8:28 NIV)

When we surrender our dreams and our will over to the God of all creation, we can rest peacefully and confidently knowing that we will be taken care of.

Jesus has called us into a great life. Yes, that does come with pain and struggle since we live in a fallen world. But it also comes with abundant blessings that can only come from confidence in God’s faithfulness.

I know that self-confidence will never last in the long run. The only true source of eternal confidence comes from running to God, soaking up His Word, and remembering that He is always faithful.

This, lovely one, is true confidence.


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The Most Beautiful Girl

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Yesterday was International Women’s Day–a day to celebrate the accomplishments and milestones of hardworking and inspiring women everywhere. Even though I am proud to be a woman of God and be honored with such a holiday, I can’t help but feel sad. So many girls and women struggle with the most basic of questions–am I beautiful?

Even though to some the question of beauty shouldn’t be an issue to what a woman can accomplish, let me tell you that it is a huge deal. If a woman does not feel like she is beautiful, or if she is not comfortable in her own skin, then she cannot fully step outside herself and love others with the selfless love of Christ. 

And before y’all go crazy, this is Biblical:

 And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ This is the first commandment. And the second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:30-31 NKJV).

As we read these two verses, we nod our heads and agree that we should love God with everything in us. After all, He sent His one and only Son Jesus to die for our sins so we could be free! But then there’s the second greatest commandment, the only other one that we are responsible for trying to keep: love others as we love ourselves. 

It’s amazing how astoundingly well the Bible knows us. No verse is in there by mistake–including this one. If we don’t really love ourselves, then we can’t love others. In fact, if we don’t love ourselves, then we can’t even love God (at least not to the fullest)!

If you’re reading this and are struggling with issues of poor body image or low self-esteem, I’m not writing this to attack you. I get it–I’ve been there. As a matter of fact, this is still a daily battle for me. And the reason I’m writing this is so you can see how important it is to finally start accepting and loving yourself for the fearfully and wonderfully made woman that you are (Psalm 139:14).

 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them (Genesis 1:27 NJKV).

You are made in God’s image! In some way, you resemble God. Maybe it’s your skin, your hair, the way you walk, or your laugh. You are God’s child, and like any child, you resemble your Heavenly Father in some way. And what could be better than to resemble the God of the entire universe? 

As a follower of Jesus Christ, you actually have God inside of you. Your body is a holy temple (1 Corinthians 6:19-20), and is sacred to the Lord. You are not just flesh and bone. You are not just a shell. You hold the powerful Holy Spirit inside of you.

Your body–no matter what shape, size, or color–is made to do the will of God. It is made to love, serve, live, and be loved. You were made to laugh and go on adventures. You were made to dance in the rain or kiss your true love under the stars. You were made to have pizza nights with friends and sing at the top of your lungs. You were made to live life to the fullest. 

The most beautiful girl in the world is not the one who is the skinniest or who has a perfect complexion. The most beautiful girl is the one who knows how much God loves her. She walks with a spirit of grace, elegance, and confidence that nothing else can measure.

that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height—to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God (Ephesians 3:17-19).

If you don’t realize how much God loves you, then I encourage you to look up these scriptures as well as the rest of the Gospel. If you don’t know Jesus as Lord and Savior, then please visit this page.

We really can’t even begin to comprehend how much God loves us. But the more we learn about His incredible love, the more it makes us love Him. And this love will radiate to everyone around us.

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