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FirstFruits~What Are You Pursuing?

Hello lovely readers and followers! Welcome to Part 2 of the FirstFruits series, where we explore the concepts of James 1.

What runs your life? That is the question James asks his fellow believers in verse 11.

For no sooner has the sun risen with a burning heat than it withers the grass; its flower falls, and its beautiful appearance perishes. So the rich man also will fade away in his pursuits (James 1:11 NKJV).

A lot of people think that James is condemning all rich people, and that it is evil to have money. That’s not true, as sin affects us all no matter if we are rich or poor. The key is this sentence: “So the rich man also will fade away in his pursuits.”

It’s not the money that hurts us, but rather our pursuit of it. This isn’t just about riches either. We often have many pursuits that are not about Jesus. Maybe it’s attention, relationships, our career or grades. Maybe it’s approval, or our appearance.

The truth is, we spend a lot of our time focusing on the wrong things and then wonder why our souls are left empty.


Again, the Word provides the answer we need.

 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death (James 1:14-15 NKJV). 

Sometimes our desires for the things of this world get out of hand. Instead of setting our hearts on God and His perfect will, we focus on what we think the world can satisfy us with. Verse 15 clearly shows us that the world cannot fulfill our deepest needs. In fact, when not aligned with the will of God, our wants can lead to sin, and this sin leads to spiritual death.

Here’s some real talk–I’m not a perfect person. I know what it’s like to pursue the world and wind up empty. I tried to find acceptance in my grades, appearance, and approval of others. I was looking for the acceptance that I had no idea was right in front of me the whole time.

Even though I still struggle with temptations (after all, I am only human), I know the secret to a fulfilled life and soul. When we pursue Jesus and His grace and love, we become fully alive in Him (Romans 6:8)!

God has more in store for us than we can ever imagine. He alone can satisfy our every need and desire, so we can fully enjoy the world around us the way He intended.

Right now I want you to take a few minutes to ask yourself, “what have I been pursuing lately?” Is it things of God or things of this world? Wherever you’re at, ask Jesus for His abundant life as you surrender your heart. I can assure you that you won’t be disappointed.

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Did God Really Ask Me to Do That?


I recently got into a conversation with an older, intelligent woman who claimed to be a Christian. As we were talking, the topics of faith and sinful lifestyles were brought up. The woman kept shaking her head at me, saying how there couldn’t be a loving God who would judge us so harshly on our fleshly tendencies. 

I really wasn’t exactly sure how to respond at first. I knew that God is indeed loving, but that He is also just. We must try to overcome our sinful nature on our walk with God. I also mentioned that I couldn’t really judge another person’s sinful lifestyle, as I had my own temptations and sins to worry about.

The more time I spent alone, the more I started to think about this topic. It doesn’t seem fair does it? There are just some things I would really like to do/say/think that God doesn’t like. Why does He want us to be so miserable? After all, He created us this way.

The thing is, God doesn’t want us to be miserable. He wants us to be holy–like Him. And since the fall of Adam and Eve and the sin that entered the world, us humans have a hard time understanding what is truly holy. We have an even harder time trying to desire what is holy.

To all of you who are bummed out by God’s expectations–to all of you who may be turned off to Christianity because of your current life situation–I get it. There are changes I have had to make in my life, and there are still things that I am working on. It isn’t always easy, and sometimes I really don’t want to. So why do I bother?

I bother because I love God so much that I want to please Him more than I want to please my own flesh. Sometimes I waver and fail (aka sin), but my heart really is set on Jesus, so I am quick to repent. I know that no matter what I am loved by God and saved by the blood of His Son Jesus, but a guaranteed ticket to heaven is not where the story ends.

We can have the holy and beautiful life that God has in store for us starting now if we submit to His word. If you really know God–if you really have experienced the love and freedom of Jesus–then everything else in life will fail to measure up. Even the people and things we love most will hold second place to God (even though they can still matter).

Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone (James 2:17 KJV).

You can tell who is a true follower of Jesus by how the Holy Spirit is working in their life. A true Christian will not live the same way as everyone else. We will not watch the same movies, listen to all of the same music, or say the same things.

I see this in my own life every day. I used to watch a show on T.V. that I thought was funny. I recently was flipping through the channels to find re-runs of it playing. It was so vulgar and raunchy that I had to change the channel. Not only did I not find it funny anymore, but I truly did not want it. Obviously I am not perfect here, and I still watch mainstream shows. It’s just that I am more careful with my choices.

Still, some things are harder to give up. Sometimes it can even take time and maybe some extra help from older Christians or professionals. But I know that I want everything in my life, including the decisions I make, to glorify God. Every time we choose God over this world, we get to experience the full joy of God’s presence. We also get to live the life He wants us to have.

A lot of us will nod our heads and say “amen” to this. Here’s a question for you ladies: Will you give up that super cute and charming boyfriend who isn’t a mature Christian for God? 

It can be hard, but if you truly love God and know how much He loves you, then you will become convicted of the things in your life that you need to change. Spiritual maturity and growth takes time, but it’s worth it. Even though giving up some of our fleshly ways isn’t fun in the beginning, if we have faith and keep persevering, we will reap the rewards. 

 And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart (Galatians 6:9 NKJV).


No Compromise

This weekend, millions of women and men will go out and watch the movie Fifty Shades of Grey. I’m not going to write about why you shouldn’t see that movie. I don’t think I need to tell you that it’s porn (no matter who says otherwise), and that porn is rooted in human trafficking and the destruction of lives and marriages. This is a message for Christians who may be compromising their values this weekend. This is a message for believers who, despite knowing in their hearts that this movie is evil, are still willing to see it.

Don’t get me wrong– I’m not trying to condemn you or tell you how awful you are. This temptation is there for all believers, including myself. The world is full of sin and temptations everyday. Movies, T.V., magazines and books, celebrities, and even world leaders are often in conflict with Christ.

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News flash ladies– we are not of this world.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God (Romans 12:2 KJV).

We, as Christians, are set apart from this world. We are not to conform to the world’s standards, but to the standards of our King, Jesus Christ. God says that we are to be transformed by the renewing of our mind. It’s simply not enough to go to church and read our Bibles; we need to practice what we preach!

You can’t call yourself a Christian and act the same as you did before you were saved. You can’t watch all of the same movies, or dress the same, or even talk the same. As a woman of God, you are called to be a light in this world.

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven (Matthew 5:16).

If you go about walking in sin and worldliness, then you are compromising your beliefs. And let me tell you, compromise only leads to more sin and more destruction in our lives. God doesn’t want us to compromise when we surrender ourselves to Him– it’s all or nothing. God gives us a warning about lukewarm (compromising) Christians in Revelation 3:16. He does not want us to live lives of compromise.

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We all need to ask ourselves, if a stranger saw my life and how I was living, would they know that I’m a Christian? Would they know that I’m a daughter of God, who’s been set apart from this world? We need to stop living our lives with one foot in God’s truth and one foot in the world. God has a life of love, peace, and mercy for all of us, but we need to fully surrender our lives to Him and stop compromising what is right for what is popular. Please remember this, not only this week, but for the rest of your life.

Love, Emily <3

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